Yaoi and Yuri is an industry that is made for heterosexual women. Yuri pops up over again in girls media as a representation of adolescence or “immaturity”. In Japan there is a belief that you arn’t a “true woman” until marriage and children. So in young girls literature it is popular to show a young girl “growing up” by leaving the lesbian relationship for the male love interest. This is why you don’t see many committed lesbian relationships with children in Japanese media. cont…
Not only is it still illegal for them to be married it is sub-human for a woman to act in such a manner. A young girl may indulge in these fantasies but she should not be open with her actual partner until after she has married and had children of her own. After divorce comes love, not before. This ideal is established and enforced in yuri manga, television, books, and other Japanese media today.
Yaoi functioned as a way of allowing the sexual repressed women of Japan a consumable media that gave them equality in the bedroom. Because both sexual players were men by default they had more say in the relationship than a subordinant female. By making the men androgenous women could impose themselves into the roll. Yuri today serves the same market, although men enjoy it too. …
The long term affects of the booming industry though have not only led to heterosexual women to have more freedom in expressing their own desires but it has also worked to fetishize the LGBTQA community in Japan. Magazines on how to force gay men into marriage because they are “best husband” and themed mock cafes create a culture that views gay Men and Women as those induldging in a hobby to please heterosexuality. …
Yaoi and yuri is porn that, when acknowledged as a fantasy is wonderful. However people aren’t separating the fantasy from reality and this is problematic. It was worrying for me when I saw this fetishizing of it in Japan but now it has spilled over to American audiences as well.
It is not healthy to view an entire sexuality as your personal pleasure plot in real life, yet a subculture grows from sconsuming this media. It has been detrimental to the sexual minorities of japan and it is now having the same negative effects in America. The harassment of LGBTQA individuals at cons in my experience has grown as more and more people blurr their fetish with activism.
All I would like to see is these fans who now harass LGBTQA individuals, and uphold Japan as a gay paradise to be sat down and calmly explain the differences between porn and reality. Because many of these youths and adults consuming this form of media in both the states and Japan are falling into the fantasy.
Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.
They took a group of students and gave half of them information about the importance of vaccination, but also gave the other half directions to the health center and asked them to indicate a time in their calendars that they would show up. Amazingly, the information did very little but the map and schedule was very effective at getting people to show up and get vaccinated. For me, this is an important building block - providing people with information is not very useful, and we need to change the environment to facilitate better decision-making.
pros of werewolf boyfriend:
- happy with any present as long as its chewable
- very very excited to see you after any period of time apart
- will lie in your bed and keep you warm whenever you take a nap
- growls at jerks, may eat them
cons of werewolf boyfriend:
- absolutely nothing