I'm a woman-person who adores shows meant for twelve year old boys and has all the mental focus and acuity of a desperately confused squirrel. I drink a lot of tea.

Try not to panic.


After hearing the same question over and over from friends and family — “Why aren’t you married yet?” — art director Suzanne Heintz got tired of it and set out to do something about it. She got herself a little family…of mannequins.

Over the course of 14 years and 10,000 miles of travel, she took her fake family everywhere and took all kinds of “family” pictures….

I loved the comment of Laura:

 She’s underlining the fact that for many people, a family seems to be little better than a trophy or badge to prove that someone has succeeded at fulfilling society’s expectations of them. How many families look great in photographs but are actually empty inside? The point is not to condemn family life, but to refuse to accept that a good life is simply one that looks good to other people.

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Ugh… just going to post this here then. (Sorry for spamming asks didn’t know I could do this)


Yaoi and Yuri is an industry that is made for heterosexual women.  Yuri pops up over again in girls media as a representation of adolescence or “immaturity”.  In Japan there is a belief that you arn’t a “true woman” until marriage and children.  So in young girls literature it is popular to show a young girl “growing up” by leaving the lesbian relationship for the male love interest.  This is why you don’t see many committed lesbian relationships with children in Japanese media.  cont…

Not only is it still illegal for them to be married it is sub-human for a woman to act in such a manner.  A young girl may indulge in these fantasies but she should not be open with her actual partner until after she has married and had children of her own.  After divorce comes love, not before.  This ideal is established and enforced in yuri manga, television, books, and other Japanese media today. 

Yaoi functioned as a way of allowing the sexual repressed women of Japan a consumable media that gave them equality in the bedroom.  Because both sexual players were men by default they had more say in the relationship than a subordinant female.  By making the men androgenous women could impose themselves into the roll.  Yuri today serves the same market, although men enjoy it too. …

The long term affects of the booming industry though have not only led to heterosexual women to have more freedom in expressing their own desires but it has also worked to fetishize the LGBTQA community in Japan.  Magazines on how to force gay men into marriage because they are “best husband” and themed mock cafes create a culture that views gay Men and Women as those induldging in a hobby to please heterosexuality.  …

Yaoi and yuri is porn that, when acknowledged as a fantasy is wonderful.  However people aren’t separating the fantasy from reality and this is problematic.  It was worrying for me when I saw this fetishizing of it in Japan but now it has spilled over to American audiences as well. 

It is not healthy to view an entire sexuality as your personal pleasure plot in real life, yet a subculture grows from sconsuming this media.  It has been detrimental to the sexual minorities of japan and it is now having the same negative effects in America.  The harassment of LGBTQA individuals at cons in my experience has grown as more and more people blurr their fetish with activism. 

All I would like to see is these fans who now harass LGBTQA individuals, and uphold Japan as a gay paradise to be sat down and calmly explain the differences between porn and reality.  Because many of these youths and adults consuming this form of media in both the states and Japan are falling into the fantasy.

Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.

The Pervocracy: Consent culture. (via wickedgirlssavingourselves)

plus that “give grandma/aunt/uncle/distant relative a hug” bullshit for kids

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They took a group of students and gave half of them information about the importance of vaccination, but also gave the other half directions to the health center and asked them to indicate a time in their calendars that they would show up. Amazingly, the information did very little but the map and schedule was very effective at getting people to show up and get vaccinated. For me, this is an important building block - providing people with information is not very useful, and we need to change the environment to facilitate better decision-making.

Dan Ariely, on his favorite social experiment to try on a college campus (via afternoonsnoozebutton)

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This scene was actually when I went from feeling more or less neutral on Joan to actively disliking her.

Because wow, that was patronizing.

I loved that scene in Elementary.

1) Firstly, because it immediately deconstructs the “hero throws and breaks something in frustration” cliche (Sherlock throwing a glass slide in HoB, anyone?) it might even be seen as a parody of that cliche.

2) Secondly, because the dynamic is different between a man and a woman than it would be between two women or two men, the visual of a man smashing something in a temper in front of a woman can be taken as threatening or borderline abusive. Joan Watson immediately shows that she is not intimidated by Holmes’ behavior.

3) Lastly? One of the running themes of Elementary is the deconstruction of Sherlock Holmes as the solitary, antisocial genius, and his becoming a member of a community. Holmes’ gifts are given their due respect, but no one in Elementary plays the game of Because Sherlock Holmes is a Bloody Genius He Can Do Whatever He Wants So There. When Sherlock goes after Moriarty (“M”), Captain Gregson suspends him. When Sherlock doesn’t want to talk about his addiction, Alfredo says “You’ve got to get over yourself.” And when Sherlock behaves like a spoiled child, Joan tells him “Use your words.”

You see Joan patronizing Sherlock. I see a member of Sherlock’s community teaching him how to behave like an adult member of that community.

Additionally, Watson’s done good work for a number of years as a sober companion, not a manchild enabler. It’s quite literally her job to deconstruct people’s shitty self-defeating habits and demonstrate that there are better ways to live your life. She’s not in the business of humoring anyone or playing along with their tantrums, she’s in the business of fixing them. And what she does works! It gets spelled out explicitely in the text of the show: Sherlock himself admits that what’s changed about him, for the better, is her. 

As an addict in recovery, I can tell you first hand that it is extremely easy to revert back into self-destructive behavior when faced with a sudden and very emotional shift in your life - Sherlock is hurting, he is thrown completely by the events of the week, and he chose a very poor coping skill - smashing the plate - to express this. And though he did apologize immediately, he walked away rather than talk to his best friend and confidant about his feelings. Communication is a tremendously important aspect of healing in the process of recovery - there is a reason we as members of 12-step programs are encouraged to get sponsors and talk to them about how we feel every single day.

So I don’t read Joan’s reaction as patronizing here - I read it as her way of reminding Sherlock that old habits are not the way he should be handling his grief and anger - after all, it was a lack of communication and proper coping skills that led him down the path of substance abuse in the first place. Joan knows this, and that’s why she demonstrates the futility of his choice to react in destructive anger (and yes, immaturity) by repeating it. It’s a way of reminding him how far he’s come in his recovery, and how old instincts have never worked for him.

This course of action also has the added benefit of shocking him out of the emotional whirlwind whipping through his head and grounding him back in reality. While some people may think this is an extreme choice to make when handling someone who has just lost a very dear friend, remember how very, very jeopardizing this situation is in regards to Sherlock’s sobriety - the last time he dealt with the death of a loved one, he ended up so strung out on drugs that he lost everything and was forced into rehab. Joan is extremely aware of this, and that’s why this scene is so incredibly crucial.

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pros of werewolf boyfriend:

  • happy with any present as long as its chewable
  • very very excited to see you after any period of time apart
  • will lie in your bed and keep you warm whenever you take a nap
  • growls at jerks, may eat them

cons of werewolf boyfriend:

  • absolutely nothing

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Found! First Earth-Size Planet That Could Potentially Support Life
Astronomers have discovered a planet about the size of Earth,
orbiting its star in the zone where oceans of liquid water would be possible.


A study of the newly-found planet indicates it could have an Earth-like atmosphere and water at its surface. The planet Kepler-186f is the fifth planet of the star Kepler-186, 490 light-years away.

The planet has 1.11 times the Earth’s mass. Its radius is 1.1 times that of Earth. Kepler-186f orbits at 32.5 million miles (52.4 million kilometers) from its parent star. Its year is 130 Earth days. 

The planet orbits Kepler-186, an M-type dwarf star less than half as massive as the sun. Because the star is cooler than the sun, the planet receives solar energy less intense than that received by Mars in our solar system, despite the fact that Kepler-186f orbits much closer to its star.

guys this isn’t just some science jerk-offery. This is legitimately the first confirmed exoplanet that fulfils all of NASA’s main prerequisites, same mass, same density, rocky, right zone in terms of heat, it may even have an atmosphere.

Soon we’re launching a satellite code named “Star Shade”, which although it sounds badass is literal- it’s a massive unfurling shade that will allow a powerful telescope to TAKE PHOTOS of these goddamn planets, no doubt this one will be first on the list, to see what they look like.


I say we name it in honour of Carl Sagan who first brought serious investigation into finding exoplanets in a time where people didn’t even believe they existed, yet.

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“Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?”, Part 1 of 2. (link to Part 2)


  1. College Men: Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,Lisak and Miller, 2002 [PDF, 12 pages]
  2. Navy Men: Lisak and Miller’s results were essentially duplicated in an even larger study (2,925 men): Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel, McWhorter, 2009 [PDF, 16 pages]

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Reblogging because I mentioned this study in a post the other day and someone reblogged & replied insinuating that I’d made it up, but I didn’t have the citation on hand right then. As I said then: rape culture is what teaches rapists that they aren’t rapists.

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I made a slideshow about how to create a fictional character… I got most of the information from the ‘start writing fiction’ (free) course on the OpenUniversity website and found it incredibly useful so here’s a visual version for you :)

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